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Dear Guru,

I am a 20-year-old lad. Actually I am in love with a girl who lives in my neighbourhood. She is very pretty and whenever I look at her, she smiles at me. I haven't talked to her and I have never expressed my feelings. Now the problem is that a few days back I saw her with another boy and she looked happy with him. I am so heart broken. I can't forget her and I miss her so much. There are so many girls who want to have friendship with me, as I also happen to be quite good looking but my heart only wants her. What should I do? Should I talk to her? You may be thinking I am crazy but I am not. Help me.

Lucky or Unlucky

Dear Lucky or Unlucky,

No, I don't think you are a crazy person, but you also have to keep in mind that you are not a teen any more. 20 is quite a mature age and you should be your age rather than behave like a 15-year-old kid. It's fine if you like that girl but it's not sensible on your part if you shed tears for her unnecessarily. Mind you, the girl is clueless of your feelings. She has no idea what you are thinking about her. May be she is the friendly sort and that's why she smiles at you. You can't really blame her for that. And how come you are so sure that the boy she was with was her boyfriend? May be he was her very good friend or cousin. Unless you know the reality you should not suspect her. And if you are really interested in her then muster some courage and talk to her. In that way at least you'll be in a position to actually know about her feelings or put it straight - your status. It's always better to face the reality than to remain in a quandary. If she also happens to like you, well and good, but if she doesn't then there is no point wasting your time thinking about her. You are lucky that so many girls want to be friends with you. So consider yourself lucky instead of unlucky. Good luck!

Confidential

Dear Frustrated Lover,

I think you should talk to your friend. So what if your height is short, you should not be ashamed of yourself only because of your physical appearance. It's not the physique that attracts or appeals others; actually it's the overall personality that charms others. No matter how smart or beautiful you are, if you are not a nice person people will not like you much. But if you are a caring person then people will bound to like you. I am sure that the friend of yours really likes you and I am sure she will not reject you. Just have faith in God and yourself. You have to take an initiative before it's too late. And don't worry about what others will say about you. You should be bold enough to face the world. Remember that tomorrow if you earn well then the same group of people will start respecting you whether you are tall or short. At the end of the day what matters is your future. Concentrate on your future and make a good name in your chosen field. You never know what future has in store for you. Good luck!

Salam Guru,

I am a 12-year-old girl. My problem is that I am chubby. There are three girls in my class who make fun of me because of my weight. I get very confused and embarrassed. I want to avoid the topic, but whenever these girls get a chance they start ridiculing me. These girls are very ill mannered. I think their parents haven't told them how to behave. I am so sad. I don't know what to do? Please help.

Laiba

Dear Laiba,

Little girl, you should not have put on weight at such a young age. Anyway, you should not feel upset about your weight. It's not a big problem. All you have to do is to control your diet. Don't worry about those girls. Just ignore them and start concentrating on your studies. Such girls should not have any importance in your life for they are not your friends. So why bother about them in the first place? Now, in order to lose weight and to look good, you must start exercising and playing. Try to walk as much as you can. It's the couch potatoes who put on weight, so don't be one. Do you help your mom with household chores? If not, then start helping her around. The physical work will make you more active. Avoid munching in-between meals. Say goodbye to chocolates, cheese, cake, french fries, cold drinks and all the bakery stuff. I know it will be a great sacrifice on your part, but don't you feel like fighting back by looking slim and smart? Don't give any chance to those mean girls to make fun of you. Good luck!

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