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I am so beautiful

Hello Guru,

I am a 14-year-old girl and I live in America. I go to high school. Actually, I am very pretty. A lot of guys are after me. Every day I hear compliments like 'hi, beautiful', 'hello hottie', etc. I am known as the most popular girl in school.

I used to go out with this guy, A, who is not so popular. All the guys were jealous of him. There were some perverts in our school too who were after me. I was just friendly with them as they all appreciated my looks. Well, A could not handle all the admiration I got and now he has broken up with me. He thinks I am a big time flirt. Well, what can I do if I am so pretty? I really love A and cannot concentrate on my studies. Although guys are still after me and am friendly with some of them, I miss A a lot. How can I get him back in my life?

Hot Virgo

Dear Hot Virgo,

I have edited some part of your letter, keeping in view our policy. It seems that you really love the attention of guys even if they are perverts. Of course no decent guy like A will tolerate this. If you are sincere with him then you may as well prove it by your deeds. You know action speaks louder than words. On one hand you want A in your life as your steady boyfriend, but on the other hand you would like to continue with all the flirtation and admiration around you. You think that since you are pretty it is all right to have 'fun' in your life. You are a self obsessed person, so it's difficult for you to digest that A has left you although you are so beautiful. Dear girl, wake up and get a reality check. Looks are temporary, and in long term relationships, trust and sincerity matter a lot. Any way, try to come clean in front of A. If he forgives you with an open heart then continue your friendship with him otherwise just forget about him. I am sure there is no dearth of boys who want your gracious company. Good luck!

She is like wind

Hi Guru,

I am a 16-year-old boy and am caught in a very funny situation. There is this girl who I am mad about and don't know what to do. I have already told her about my feelings and I got a negative reply. I've also found out that she is already committed to another guy. I've asked many of my friends and they have all told me to forget about her and carry on with my life. Guru, I just cannot forget her as I really love her. Suggest some interesting and useful tips so that I can make her mine. She is like wind that I cannot capture.  

Puzzled Lover

Dear Puzzled Lover,

Actually, Guru does not have a magic wand; and neither is he some sort of a wizard that can neutralize that girl's feelings for that guy, putting her under your spell. I can only suggest humanly possible solutions. You have to keep one thing in mind that in matters of heart you just cannot force or compel any one to love you. It's a natural feeling. When you know that the girl you like is already committed, why are you wasting your time running after her? Be sensible, all your friends are right. You should carry on with your life. Believe me, it's just a passing fancy and after few years you will laugh at your own craziness. Good luck!

I am the odd one out

Salaam Guru,

I am a 20-year-old medical student studying in Kohat Medical College. Actually my problem is that I am still not used to the college's environment. I studied in a co-ed school but did my pre-medical from a boys' college. When I was in school I never had any problems interacting with girls, but here in medical college I find it extremely difficult to mingle with them. Also, my male colleagues are all into girls – all the time they talk about girls. I don't like this culture. One more thing is that I am Urdu speaking while majority of them speak Pashto and I feel alienated. What should I do?

Confused Student

Dear Confused Student,

You need to come to the terms that you are studying in a professional college where you have to accept people as they are. If language is your barrier then try to learn Pushto from any of your friend. In that way you would easily be able to participate in your colleagues' conversations. Secondly, you have to keep your inhibitions aside. Just talk to the girls normally and don't show them your nervousness. Remember how easy it was for you to talk to girls when you were in school! If your colleagues are interested in girls then let them mind their own business. You do what you like. After all, you cannot impose your thoughts on any one. Just relax and pay attention to your studies. Good luck!    

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