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My brothers are so rude

Hi Guru,

I am depressed because of my two brothers. They always misbehave with my parents and unnecessarily argue with them. They are not good in studies. They are very careless and rude. I get very upset when I see them misbehaving with my parents. I feel very sorry for my poor parents. They have provided us with everything – best of education, material comfort, affection and yet their sons are so mean. Please tell me what I can do for my parents.

Concerned Daughter

Dear Concerned Daughter,

Your letter should serve as an eye opener for all those parents who yearn for boys only and prefer their sons over daughters. Most of the time parents pamper their sons only and tend to forget that they are creating 'monsters' instead of human beings. Your brothers' haughty attitude towards your parents is by no means approved by the norms. Our ethics teach us to be humble and patient with our parents, especially when they are old and sick. At least your parents are fortunate to have a loving and caring daughter like you. Well, you can play a positive role in this regard by taking control of the situation. You have to be assertive and determined. Whenever your brothers start misbehaving with your parents, try to stop them instead of watching it silently. Talk to them when they are in better moods and persuade them to be polite with their parents. Maybe they are doing it unconsciously and have no idea that their rude behaviour actually hurts their parents' feelings. Make them realize their mistakes in a very rational manner. But in all this process you need to control your temper. I am sure your brothers will mend their behaviour gradually. Good luck!

I cannot handle my fiancée's friends

Dear Guru,

I am 27-year-old. I recently got engaged to a 22-year-old girl. I have done my masters whereas she is still in college. I am quite happy with my fiancée and really love her, but the problem is that I feel very jealous whenever she talks about her male cousins or class fellows. She happens to be a friendly person and talks freely with everyone. I really don't like her being friendly with her male colleagues and cousins. Although she has told me hundred times that she only loves me, it's very difficult to trust her. I just cannot digest the idea that she has male friends. I am very sensitive in her case. How can I get rid of my suspicions?

Jealous Fiancé

Dear Jealous Fiancé,

I feel sorry for your fiancée. That poor gal has to put up with your jealous behaviour. You are an educated person, but it seems that mentally you are very immature. You need to feel confident of your own personality instead of feeling insecure. Don't you have any female cousins whom you are friendly with? Didn't you have female colleagues at the university? When you are studying in co-ed institutions, it's but natural to have friendly relations with your colleagues. So there is nothing to be worried about. You should look at the positive traits of your fiancée. Remember that a relationship is based on mutual trust. If you want to have a healthy relationship with her then you need to get rid of the negative thoughts from your mind.

I love to capture

Geo Guru,

I really love the way you help out others. I am dying to be a photographer. How can I learn the art of photography?

The Girl in Black

Dear Girl in Black,

To learn the art of photography, first you have to know the basics. It also matters whether you are naturally good with the camera or not. Do an internship with any professional photographer. It will help you a lot in gaining practical experience. Also, there are good books available on photography, so read to get the technical know-how. And shoot and capture as much as you can as they say practice makes a man perfect. Good luck!

Pay attention, stammerers

Salam Guru,

I am a regular reader of your magazine. Some time ago a teenager, 'King' wrote to you about his stammering problem. I am a part of a team that is trying to start a project in Pakistan with the help of International Stuttering Association. We are planning to make a support association for stammerers in Pakistan and try to help them. All of us working on this project are ourselves stammerers, but due to continuous support we are in our recovery phase. We want other PWS (Person who stammer) to join us. We really want to help them. Through your column we want to reach out to those who need our help. King and people like him can contact me at hammad772001@yahoo.com. Your cooperation in this regard would be highly appreciated.

Hammad

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