Afraid of mom

Dear Guru,

I need your help badly. I just finished with my exams and am now waiting for my results. I am a good student and always get As. But this year I didn't do well in my papers and am afraid it'll be average marks for me this time. I am really anxious as I know my mom will be mad at me for getting average result. I don't want to disappoint her. I am under so much mental stress. Please help.

Anxious Girl

Dear Anxious Girl,

There is nothing to be tensed about. Sometimes even brilliant students don't do well, so it's okay if you get average marks for once. You are a serious minded student and I am sure you'll study hard in your next term. As far as your mother is concerned, it would be better if you tell her honestly about your performance beforehand. If she is mentally prepared, she won't be angry with you. I am sure she'll understand, as you have always been a good daughter and a good student. Good luck!

I am in a fix

Salaam Guru,

I am an 18-year-old boy and a student of FSc. The problem with me is related to my studies. I take my studies very seriously. I have decided that I will not even use mobile phone till I complete my FSc, as you know mobile phone is quite addictive and I don't want to waste my time talking to my friends.

Now the problem with me is that I take more interest in fiction than my studies. I love reading novels, newspapers and magazines. When I go to the library I borrow novels instead of reference books. I know I should devote more time to my studies as my exams are approaching and I have a lengthy course to complete. I have made hundreds of time tables but nothing worked out. Guru, you are my last hope. Please tell me what to do?

Yasir Abbas

Dear Yasir Abbas,

The problem with you is that you are taking your studies very seriously but you are not serious about studies. It's just like you have a proper dining room with excellent china-set and cutlery but the real thing that should be on the table is missing i.e., food. Same is the case with you. You have access to all the facilities like school library, computer etc., but your heart is not there. Don't cut yourself socially from the outside world; it's not healthy. Recharge your mobile phone, talk to your friends and try to study in a group. You see, when you study with your fellows then automatically you strive to study hard as then you are in competition with your pals. Reading is a good habit; don't abandon it, but try to do everything in a balanced way. Divide your time in three areas: time for school, time to relax (in which you can socialise or read novels) and time to study. Every day you need to study at least four hours. Start following this regimen and I am sure you'll succeed. Good luck!

She is so snooty

Hi Guru,

I am a 16-year-old girl doing A-Levels. I study in one of the prestigious schools of the city. There is this girl X in our class who happens to be a daughter of some big landlord. Since she is pretty too she has a major attitude problem. She ignores me and at times behaves rudely with me. I am a good student and am quite popular in my class. I don't understand why she is such a snob and why she looks down upon me. Let me tell you she is just an average student.

Dolly

Dear Dolly,

The best way to deal with her is to ignore her. If she thinks too high of herself then you are also no insect. Prove your worth by not paying any heed to her. Who cares if she is a pretty daughter of some rich guy? What has she got to show off on her own? Nothing! You, on the other hand, are a good student, which probably makes her jealous of you. So don't worry and just be happy. Good luck!

Dear Disillusioned Girl,

I am so amazed at your simplicity. How can a girl be so naïve at the age of 27? All these years that friend of yours has been playing with your emotions. He is a shrewd guy who knows you have a soft corner for him and he is taking advantage of that. He is just having good time on the pretext of being a friend. Actually, he is not your friend; he is just a manipulator. I advise you to stay away from him. Break up with him. He has already hurt you; don't be a doormat for him. Have some self respect and disown him before he leaves you. Good luck! Please write to the Guru at trustusproblems@yahoo.com