Cat is playing with her mouse

Hey Guru,

I am an 18-year-old boy. I am in love with my class mate 'S'. Her friends know this and make it very obvious. Unfortunately, she still seems oblivious of me. I seek opportunities to talk to her but as soon as she sees my best friend 'I' she starts staring at him. I think she's trying to use me to make him jealous. Even though I know this I can't stop myself from loving her. Sometimes I think of hurting myself to prove my love to her. How can I make her see how much I care for her?

Cheems

Dear Cheems,

Your love is only enjoying the attention she is getting from you. Of course she is aware of your feelings as it's an open secret, but she is acting oblivious for obvious reasons. She is a smart girl and is only teasing you. I think she is trying to lure 'I'. Whatever the case may be you need to know the truth. You don't need to prove anything to her as you are a sincere person. Just muster some courage, go and talk to her directly and put an end to this cat and mouse play from her side. Good luck!

He is too touchy

Salam Guru,

I have a very good friend but the problem with him is that he is too emotional, sensitive and possessive about me. He wants to be my best friend. I really like him but I have other friends too and I can't be with him all the time. He makes issues out of trivial things like for instance a few days back I told him that I would be sitting with other friends of mine in class. (Actually I wanted to improve my grades and these friends of mine are very intelligent). He took it to his heart and cried a lot and I had to make an apology.

Guru, I can't deal with his emotional dramas all the time. He can't seem to understand that I have a life of my own too. What should I do?

Agitated Friend

Dear Agitated Friend,

The best way to deal with your friend is to initiate a dialogue with him. If he does not seem to understand then you have to 'make' him understand. Since he is the sensitive sort you have to deal with him very carefully and sensibly. There is no need to be harsh with him. While talking to him choose kind words, for instance instead of saying "you want to sit with other friends" say "do you mind if I sit with other friends" or "I hope it's okay with you if I sit with other friends". Likewise, instead of discarding him altogether try to include him in your gang. Ask him if he would like to join the company of your friends. You see, he is not a bad person and you are fond of him too. His only problem is that he is too sensitive and he constantly needs your moral support. As a friend, if you provide him that kind of support I am sure he will overcome his problem over a period of time. Good luck!

She is not committing

Hi Guru,

I am 22 years old, and I am doing MBA. My problem is that my family wants me to get engaged with my mamu's daughter. She is a very nice girl but I have never thought of her as my life partner. I am in love with another girl I have known for the past one year. She also likes me. But the problem is that she says she will not go against her family for me or anyone else. She says that she has two sisters and a brother before her. When her time comes, she will mention my name to her mom and if she agrees then well and good; otherwise, she will respect her mom's decision. We are in touch via net. I am in a fix; even if I say yes to my parents I won't be happy with any other girl.

Crazy in Love

Dear Crazy in Love,

It seems like the girl has already made up her mind. When she is not ready to take any stand for you then it's pointless for you to wait for her. When she does not want to go against her parents' wishes then you should also take your parents' decision in consideration. Get engaged to your mamu's daughter. Usually, couples get to know each other during their engagement period. I am sure you'll get to know your fiancée better in that period. Don't get depressed. Hopefully you won't regret your decision. Good luck!