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Scared of exams

Dear Guru,

I am a 14-year-old boy. I am in class 9. My problem is that I am supposed to appear in the Board exam next year and I’m very scared of them. Every time I think about getting bad grades, I get frightened. I want to get good grades so my parents can be proud of me. My brother topped his board exams last year and I don’t want to feel embarrassed in front of him.

Scared Student

Dear Scared Student,

If you are good at studies and if you are well prepared then you shouldn’t be scared of anything. Just be confident and shed all those negative thoughts out of your mind. We all know if there is a will there is a way. So be focused and make your parents proud by getting good grades. And don’t underestimate yourself; if your brother can get a position in the board exams, you can also do it. Just be positive and work hard. Good luck!

She does not trust me

Dear Guru,

I am a 19-year-old boy and am doing ACCA. Since the past one year I have been in contact with this girl via text messages. She is a good girl and I have told her everything about me. I think I am in love with her. I love her attitude and character and everything else but she doesn’t believe me. She always keeps on asking from where I got her number. I am very depressed and I feel I won’t be able to do anything without her. How can I convince her that I am not some shady character who’s playing with her feelings and that I love her? Help me out.

Burning Soul

Dear Burning Soul,

I fail to understand why you are wasting your precious time running after someone who does not reciprocate your feelings. If this girl is so suspicious about you despite knowing everything about you then there is no point in trying to persuade her. Have some self respect and stop chasing and calling her. If she has a soft corner for you she’ll come to you herself; otherwise just forget her. This is just a temporary phase and you’ll get over it soon. Good luck!

Love calling

Dear Guru,

I am a 15-year-old girl and my problem is that I was in love with my cousin who is older than me and one day I told him about my feelings for him. He gave me a positive response, but when I told everyone about it he denied it in front of others. On the other hand there was this guy who loved me but I ignored him because of my cousin. He kept on insisting that he loved me, but then after some time agreed to be my friend only.

Now, I am hanging out with him a lot and everyone thinks I am his girlfriend. His brother and his girlfriend always ask me whether or not I love him. I don’t know what to do; I never gave him the idea that I was his girlfriend. I am so confused. Guru, please suggest whom to choose: my cousin or my friend?

Confused Liberal Girl

Dear Confused Liberal Girl,

I think you should choose your friend as he loves you and was persistent despite being ignored by you. His unconditional love eventually persuaded you to be with him. On the other hand your love for your cousin was only infatuation. He gave you a positive response only under your pressure. Had he really loved you he would not have denied his love in front of everyone. Use your common sense and be with someone who respects you rather than with someone who does not care about your feelings. Good luck!

The green-eyed monster

Dear Guru,

I am a 16-year-old girl and my problem is that my cousin who is my age is very jealous of me. We study in the same school and she always tries to belittle me in front of my friends and teachers. She has a very childish attitude and is an easy crier, so whenever she does anything wrong she starts crying and everyone scolds me for it. They always accuse me of behaving badly with her. I don’t know what to do. She is making my life miserable.

Sad Leo

Dear Sad Leo,

Don’t feel bad or upset. Just ignore your cousin’s pranks and keep your cool. If she behaves nastily with you, the best way to deal with her is to pay no attention. Since she is a smart girl she gains others’ sympathies and makes you look bad in front of others. And yes, speak out to make your position clear. There is no point sulking in silence. Just stay away from her and don’t give her any chance to malign you. Be happy!