Pakistani actor and producer Adnan Malik holds a strong presence on his social media handles. The actor, who is popular among the masses for his charming personality and skillful acting, has often times shared his personal experiences on social media as well.
Speaking about his own battles with mental health before, the Cake star has once again took to the photo and video sharing platform and posted an insightful note on Thursday.
He posted the note titled, ‘Here’s looking at you kid” and added two pictures of himself, one of him as a child, and other as an adult and penned his journey about his past, and a particular session from therapy.
“A breakthrough moment 2 years into therapy was when inching towards the end of a session, hand on my heart, inner child & adult both activated, a penny dropped,” he wrote. “For years I had been taking my wounded inner child into relationships looking to heal him. But now my therapist had alluded to the fact that relationships were not spaces to carry unhealed trauma,” he added.
Revealing his fears, the Sadqay Tumhare famed actor shared that he was afraid and insecure of who was going to take care of his inner child. He wrote, “Who will look after him then?” I asked fearful & unsure. She stared back-face stern, eyes compassionate- holding space for me to answer my own question.”
He continued recalling the time and wrote, “It took a few seconds & then my right hand clasped my heart. A fat tear shot down my cheek. I took a deep breath into my belly and answered beside myself. “I will take care of me” The words dropped out in front of my mouth like uncomfortably large, tangible objects. I could see their outlines and sense their weight.”
Malik penned that he realized that only he was going to have to take care of himself and shared some valuable points he learnt during a course on Self Development. “One of the most tender exercises in the course was writing a letter from our young selves to current selves about what they NEED from us,” he said.
Malik, 36, also list down some things his younger self wanted to say to his current self, which included, “Always show up whole. No hide & seek. You cant change people. All you can do is change yourself & hope that their responses towards you change.”
“Dont set pre-conditions for love. Go in with intention not expectations. I’m going to make responsible choices for me. Even if they arent exciting like so many projections of my script are. true self-love is holding boundaries in situations where you are tempted, but the situation doesnt hold your values,” he added.
Adding, “Stop reacting & start responding. In the here & now not influenced by past stories,” he concluded his post by asking his fans and followers about things their inner child would say to them.
