The
basics…
By
Lubna Jerar Naqvi
Recently, a
student was severely beaten by her teacher in Punjab for asking
a simple question. Our teachers need to widen their own horizons
and be taught the skill of teaching and tolerance. You! takes a
look...
There is a
scarcity of teachers in Pakistan, and when we say scarcity we
mean educated, trained teachers who actually impart education
and train their students to become useful components of the
society. But due to the low salary and the mushrooming of
private schools in every lane and street, the demand for
teachers is way higher than supply which means everyone joins
this field, whether they are suited or not. It is the
government's responsibility to provide incentives and facilities
to teachers so that more and more educated people join this
field and maybe the quality of education will improve. But since
that is not happening, our schools are full of people who select
teaching to while away their time, these people are hardly
educated themselves but they start teaching because they have
nothing better to do. Most of these teachers are young women who
are matriculates or have just achieved their intermediate
certificate and are waiting to get married. Therefore, they are
neither interested nor up to the mark to take up education as a
profession.
However, the
quality of education and teachers in Pakistan is a vast topic
which cannot be discussed within this space and therefore I will
come to the point.
In the first
week of October, a small news report tucked away on the news
portals declared that an 11-year-old girl hailing from Dharema,
a small town near Islamabad, was severely beaten by her teacher
because the child showed courage and questioned the teacher's
logic.
The young girl
Nadia Iftikhar, student of class 6th at the 'Bright Future
Academy' - a local evening coaching school - was ruthlessly
beaten by the head teacher for saying she was a Pakistani
citizen.
Allegedly, the
teacher was teaching the students about the culture and people
of Pakistan and read out a sentence from a text book, saying 'We
are Pakistani and all of us are Muslims'. To which Nadia
interrupted and said that she was also a Pakistani but she was
not a Muslim but a Christian. To which the learned teacher
allegedly replied that girl's homeland was some where in Europe
or America. After which according to the other students the
teacher beat her with a stick for challenging her views of
Islam. The child became unconscious. The family did not contact
the police and according to reports the child will return to the
school after her wounds have healed.
This incident
exposes two things: the brutality and intolerance of teachers,
revealing that these educationists need to widen their own
horizons and be taught the skill of teaching and tolerance.
Teachers have to be taught to accept questions from their
students and try to satisfy their curiosity by answering them
without being biased.
Secondly,
should all Pakistanis be Muslims? If so, then what about Muslims
living in India, US, UK etc?
Reading the
preamble of the constitution which was coined on April 12, 1973,
it is obvious that all Pakistanis are not necessarily Muslims
and anyone who thinks so is gravely wrong. The constitution's
preamble reads, "Wherein the Muslims shall be enabled to
order their lives in the individual and collective spheres in
accordance with the teachings and requirements of Islam as set
out in the Holy Quran and Sunnah; Wherein adequate provision
shall be made for the minorities freely to profess and practise
their religions and develop their cultures." This clearly
reveals that Pakistanis can be Muslims as well as non-Muslims.
Does this mean, God forbid, that educated people running
educational institutions like Dharema's Bright Future Academy
don't have any idea what their country's most important document
says about its citizen? If that is so, the head teacher who
assaulted Nadia should be booked for her crime not only towards
a minor, but also for her ignorance and lack of education. But
the sad thing is that a large portion of Pakistanis don't know
what their constitution says, and it is up to the government to
make it mandatory for all citizens to read and understand the
constitution, which is supposed to be the most important
document for any country.
So, for the
benefit of the likes of her (the teacher) and other Pakistanis
who have never read the constitution, I will take the liberty of
highlighting the text which pertains to Pakistanis who belong to
the minorities section of the Muslim society.
Again
according to an excerpt from the preamble: "Therein shall
be guaranteed fundamental rights, including equality of status,
of opportunity and before law, social, economic and political
justice, and freedom of thought, expression, belief, faith,
worship and association, subject to law and public morality;
Wherein adequate provision shall be made to safeguard the
legitimate interests of minorities, backward and depressed
classes."
Further the
constitution states, "...so that the people of Pakistan may
prosper and attain their rightful and honoured place amongst the
nations of the World and make their full contribution towards
international peace and progress and happiness of
humanity."
The
constitution further states under Fundamental Rights and
Principles of Policy that:
Freedom to
profess religion and to manage religious institutions: subject
to law, public order and morality: every citizen shall have the
right to profess, practice and propagate his religion and every
religious denomination and every sect thereof shall have the
right to establish, maintain and manage its religious
institutions."
Furthermore,
the constitution also 'safeguards against taxation for purposes
of any particular religion - No person shall be compelled to pay
any special tax the proceeds of which are to be spent on the
propagation or maintenance of any religion other than his
own." And the most important rule is:
Equality of citizens: All citizens are equal before law and
are entitled to equal protection of law. Which if followed would
end a lot of evil in the society.
Unfortunately,
this is probably one of the most abused laws in the country.
Whether people are equal before law or not, they sure are either
above or below the prevailing legal set up. The rich and
powerful arm themselves further by rising above the law and
breaking it whenever they want to and of course get away without
being punished. If they are ever caught, they either buy their
way out or dump the accusation on someone else. While the
marginalised part of society, which is a large portion of the
population, is the one that has to bear the onus of law. Guilty
or not they are the ones who generally face the music.
They don't
have the required amount to get themselves bail for the pettiest
crime, let alone buy their way out. In fact, there are a large
number of such people languishing in jails because they are
unable to pay bail. And God forbid they are asking for justice
against a rich citizen, they can rest assure that their
existence will not go further than the local police station
because the influentials usually control these. So, it is ironic
that basic rights provided by the constitution to its citizens
is disregarded on a daily basis.
And if one
can't be bothered to read the constitution, the 11th August 1947
speech made by the Quaid while presiding over the constituent
assembly should be enough.
He said:
"...If you change your past and work together in a spirit
that everyone of you, no matter to what community he belongs, no
matter what relations he had with you in the past, no matter
what is his colour, caste or creed, is first, second and last a
citizen of this State with equal rights, privileges, and
obligations, there will be no end to the progress you will make.
I cannot emphasise it too much. We should begin to work in that
spirit and in due course of time all these angularities of the
majority and minority communities, the Hindu community and the
Muslim community, because even as Muslims you have Pathans,
Punjabis, Shias, Sunnis and so on, and among the Hindus you have
Brahmins, Vashnavas, Khatris, also Bengalis, Madrasis and so on,
will vanish. Indeed if you ask me, this has been the biggest
hindrance in the way of India to attain the freedom and
independence and for this we would have been free people long
long ago. No power can hold another nation and specially a
nation of 400 million souls in subjection; nobody could have
conquered you, and even if it had happened, nobody could have
continued its hold on you for any length of time. Therefore, we
must learn a lesson from this. You are free; you are free to go
to your temples, you are free to go to your mosques or to any
other place or worship in this State of Pakistan. You may belong
to any religion or caste or creed that has nothing to do with
the business of the State."
Some
facts about Minorities:
Recent
massacres of religious minorities in Pakistan have focussed new
attention on the predicament of minorities in a country which is
generally perceived to be a homogenous Muslim nation. The need
for the protection of minority and gender-based rights across
communities is an important factor which cannot be ignored.
- The role of
the military, the political use of religion by governments and a
weak civil society, all pose enormous challenges to the
minorities in Pakistan.
- Events
within and beyond the region have influenced developments in
Pakistan.
- Efforts to
rein in militant elements and provide security for all citizens,
particularly minorities, seem inadequate and ineffective.
- Pakistan's
population is generally estimated to be c. 142 million, although
according to the official census reports it is c. 137 million.
- According to
the census of 1981, out of a total of 84,253,644, Muslims
accounted for 81,450,057; followed by 1,310,426 Christians; and
1,276,116 Hindus. Ahmadis accounted for 104,244; Parsis 7,007;
Buddhists 2,639; Sikhs 2,146; and 'others' 101,009.
- In 1990, it
was estimated that the minorities were 3.1 per cent of the total
population. According to these estimates, there were 1,769,582
Christians in Pakistan; 1,723,251 Hindus; 9,462 Parsis; 3,564
Buddhists; and 2,898 Sikhs, while the 'others' collectively were
estimated to be 13,640.
- The total
figure for the minority population was c. 3,663,167. Two years
later, the aggregate figure stood at 4,267,463; with Christians
and Hindus almost equal at 2,061,306 and 2,007,743,
respectively.
- The Ahmadis,
Parsis, Buddhists, Sikhs and others were estimated to be
163,982; 11,021; 4,150; 3,374; and 15,888, respectively. It is
interesting to note that even the Parsis, despite some outward
migration, had registered a slight increase. The census of 1998
showed the minorities nearing 11–13 million.
There are
generally no population figures available for Pakistan's smaller
minority communities. Overall, minorities represent c. 8 per
cent of the total population. Pakistani minorities consist of
Ahmadis, Bahais, Buddhists, Christians, Hindus, Jains, Kalasha
(of Chitral), Parsis and Sikhs. Except for the Ahmadis, they all
agree on their being non-Muslim.
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Sparkling
pieces
This
week You! talks to jewellery designer Shafaq Habib and takes a
look at her exquisite jewellery pieces...
By
Sara Zia Khan
Jewellery is
all about rhythm and fluidity, capturing the essence and
sensuality of the woman. The word jewellery is derived from the
word jewel, which was anglicised from the Old French word 'jouel'.
Further tracing leads back to the Latin word 'jocale', meaning
plaything. Jewellery is one of the oldest forms of body
adornment. It is an expression of one's own personal style and
attitude. In line with the higher demand in fashion is the
growing need for jewellery and accessories. Practically every
girl wears it at some point in her life: costume jewellery is a
great asset to any piece of clothing or outfit that she's
wearing. If you are looking for exquisite jewellery especially
fine jewellery that you don't normally find at your local
jewellery store? Look no further!
Recently, the
opening ceremony of Shafaq Habib's jewellery show at The
Boulevard, Park Towers, Karachi was a spectacular event. The
bevy of socialites and fashionistas in attendance testified the
designer's popularity. The theme of the show revolved around a
robbery scene and it was staged very tactfully. All the models -
Iraj, Nadiya Hussein, Kiran and Humaima Abassi - were dressed in
black velvet and staging a robbery scene. Iraj, in her element,
was acting out a theft scene with enough oomph and fire to
outclass other models, and the audience couldn't help but cheer
her on. To accentuate the jewellery, the models had a neat
hairdo and smoky make up for that 'mysterious look' and wore
some of the necklaces as head gear. The over all look of the
models gelled well with the theme of the show. With the thespian
set up and theatrical music, the show was very dramatic and well
presented, just the way the designer wanted it to be.
Talking to
You! Shafaq says, "I wanted the event to be dramatic and
different from other such events. Just like my jewellery, my
event was unique too in its own right."
Shafaq has
been designing jewellery for the past 28 years and has worked
with renowned jewellery stores in New York before she decided to
bring her work to Pakistan because she felt that the jewellery
needed reformation and wanted to see Pakistani women wear
something unique and eye catching in their everyday life as
opposed to wearing heavy chunks of gold. "I wanted
practical jewellery for my clients or rather the women in
Pakistan because many a time I visited leading stores here and
didn't really like what I saw. I put emphasis on cut and
design."
Her line
mostly consists of light pieces with minimum use of gold and
more use of stones, an idea which has not been ventured into our
country. "My target market is basically working women and
those who want something unique and different, which is why my
designs are light too, and can be incorporated into everyday
life. However, I design for brides and formal occasions
too." she explains.
This wasn't
her first exhibition, she shows twice a year in Karachi, Lahore
and Islamabad and plans on updating new designs to her
collection every month.
The jewellery
is divided into single pieces and complete sets so the clients
can buy whatever they want without having to purchase the entire
set.
Choreography:
Frieha Altaf
Event
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Letters
Dear Nadine,
I am a
30-year-old married woman. I am working at a prestigious
position in a multinational company and my husband also works on
a good position in an international company. Financially, we are
doing very well. We have been married for the last 5 years but
we do not have kids. I am actually the one with the problem. I
have severe hormonal imbalances because of which I have not been
able to conceive. Also, for the last four-and-a-half
years, I have been on medication and I have gone through painful
treatments but without any success. IVF is still an option and
we are soon going to try that. Up till now I have kept myself
very strong, but as the days are progressing, and knowing that
my condition is going to get worse with advancing age, I think I
am breaking down. I am frustrated and depressed most of the time
and sometimes cry the whole night. But whatever happens I avoid
showing my feelings to my husband or anybody else, not even my
mother. I believe that everything is in God's hand and nobody
can do anything about it, so why lament in front of humans?
Also, in the beginning I tried to share my frustration with my
husband, but then he blamed me for everything and we ended up
fighting. He thinks that I have not done enough despite the fact
that I have tried everything I could to be able to conceive
which includes losing weight. I lost 10 kilos and came down to
the normal-weight category, exercising, going through two
painful surgeries and heavy medications. Things are getting very
rough between us and I understand that my husband is also
frustrated like me, may be more than I am since he is not the
one with the problem. He has asked me on several occasions to
get khula from him, as he says that I am wasting his time and
that by now he would have had three or four children had he
married a normal woman. Nadine, a baby is the only thing that I
could not give to my husband; apart from that, I have always
fulfilled my duties as a wife and as a daughter-in-law. I even
give my salary to my husband; out of which, he gives me a fixed
pocket money and the rest he spends the way he likes. Five years
ago we had nothing - no savings, no house, not even good jobs -
and I had to sell all my wedding jewellery to help my husband
rise in his career. During the last five years I not only
struggled to get into a position that I am in today but also
helped my husband with his career, and now I only get taunts and
cruel words from my husband just because I could not give him a
baby. I feel that our relationship now is devoid of any love
despite the fact that ours was a love marriage. No matter what I
do is never enough for him and I can never be a good wife
because I am infertile. On the other hand I never get the love,
affection and respect that a wife should have from him: he
sleeps in another room when I am sick so that he can sleep well.
Twice I had surgeries and both times I was all by myself. He
calls me and my mother names; he starts shouting at me in the
public if I do something he dislikes. It seems that I do not
matter to anyone now; neither to my husband nor to my family. My
husband's constant mental torture, the talk of divorce and khula
and also the fact that I don't want to waste anymore of his time
have made me think about getting a divorce. I have decided to
give IVF one last try and then if that ends up unsuccessful, I
would ask for divorce. Do you think it is a wise decision, or do
you have a better suggestion for me at this point? I have tried
everything I could to make our relationship better but failed.
H
Dear H,
As you have
stated yourself, you have been extremely brave up till now. You
have faced very difficult circumstances with fortitude and as
such you have been a very good wife to your ungrateful husband.
Infertility is distressing for men and women alike, but what
people need to understand is that there are things over which
humans do not have any control. You are undergoing treatment and
still have few years to try your options, including IVF
treatment. Holding you responsible for this deficiency is very
dastardly on your husband's part who seems to have forgotten all
the sacrifices you have made. There are many childless couples
who are enjoying good lives after trying to have children and
then accepting that God has some other purpose for them, and we
all must submit to His will. The main thing is to understand
that children are no doubt of prime importance, but life doesn't
end for married couples if they cannot have children. Anyway, at
this time you should go for IVF treatment and I pray that you
meet with success. If, God forbid, this does not work out, you
can also consider adoption. Have you discussed this option with
your husband at all?
On no account
should you go for khula; if he is set upon divorcing you he must
take the blame himself. Khula is the option granted to women who
want to leave their husbands but their husbands are unwilling to
do so. In such cases, women can waive off their mehr or even
'pay' their husbands money to divorce them. Since it is your
husband who is thinking about putting an end to your marriage,
he should not ask you to apply for khula. It shows what a mean
person he is. Not only will you be blamed by even your own
family for not trying to save your marriage, you will have to
waive your right for your mehr, which may or may not be
substantial. But the fact that he is asking you to apply for
khula shows that your husband wants to lay the responsibility of
ending the marriage on your head.
My dear, you
should also try saving your money for a rainy day. Since your
husband is earning well, he doesn't need your money. Why do you
give it to him? Does he force you to do that? All working women
should invest their money for themselves if the circumstances in
their homes allow them to. It is always better to have this
strength, especially in your old age. It's time you start saving
money from your salary. Instead of giving all your money to him,
invest it for yourself. Tell your husband that you have to save
it as your future with him is not secure, plus you might need it
if God willing your IVF treatment works out for your baby.
Remain brave and don't give up. Keep praying to God to do what
is best for you. Good luck!
Dear NJ,
You have been
through a terrible ordeal because of your family members who did
not have the sense to make sure that you were looked after and
protected. However, they have a point when they ask you to leave
everything to God. My dear, your family set up that you have
described is positively gothic, and that includes the family of
your in-laws to be. No one would believe in your innocence. Even
if they do, they would not spare you. So take your family's
advice and remain quiet. The offender is out of the way and
would not jeopardise his reputation by saying anything, so don't
be afraid on that count. And most importantly, stop blaming
yourself. It was not your mistake and you need not tell anyone
about it. Best of luck!
Problems that
need a solution?
You can e mail
Prof. Nadine Khan at nadinekhan_34@yahoo.com
Note: If you
feel you need someone to talk to when you are alone, to share a
problem with, or just to get something that has upset or
disturbed you off your chest, share it with us.
Write to Prof.
Nadine Khan, c/o Editor 'You!' magazine, The News, Al-Rehman
Building (4th Floor) I.I
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rendezvous
All
for women
Recently,
an art exhibition was held in Karachi. You! takes a look at the
beautiful works of art...
By
Sara Zia Khan
They say
beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder; I respectively disagree
with this notion. Beauty lies in the strokes of the painter, the
magician who can bring fantasies and illusions to reality.
Painting is a
mode of expression, and the forms are numerous. Paintings can be
naturalistic and representational (as in a still life or
landscape painting). If we take the example of a portrait
painting, it is an artistic representation of a person, in which
the face and its expression is predominant. The intent is to
display the likeness, personality, and even the mood of the
person. Figure painting is another form of the visual arts in
which the artist uses a live model as the subject matter of a
two-dimensional piece of artwork using paint as the medium.
Recently, an
art exhibition was held at the Grandeur Gallery, Zamzama,
showing the works of A.S. Rind, Arsalan Naqvi, Ghalib Bakkar,
Babar Moghul, Rafiya Naeem, Mehtab Ali and
Akbar Ali. These artists managed to bring different moods and
situations of women to life. The paintings were all magnificent
to say the least but what is really intriguing is the fact that
some of these painters captured real life expressions so well
that one could almost feel the emotion the model was trying to
show. Even though an array of painters were displaying their
work of art together, each artist managed to hold his/her own
ground and their individuality was quite evident through their
work.
Back to basics
A.S. Rind and
Mehtab Ali both displayed very traditional women in their
paintings, appreciating the value of culture and folklore,
talking to You! A.S Rind said, "I wanted to show the beauty
of our own culture which has been forgotten over the years, the
clothes, jewellery and the setting is all very traditional with
elements of Thar, Rajistan, Cholistan, Rahim Yar Khan and such
places. I wanted to show that our traditional women are still
very beautiful in their own place and the ornament of traditions
never gets old, the bricks and the buildings are also a sign of
heritage and the pigeons are used as a symbol of
loneliness."
Mehtab Ali
shared the same view, his paintings were all about women of the
Mughal era and he wanted to share the love he has for it with
everyone. "I wanted to show different moods of oriental
women and since I mostly paint women, my inspiration this time
came from the Mughal era, that period saw some of the most
beautiful women on the face of this planet," he explained.
Fantasy to
reality
Babar Mughal's
painting were also about women and their moods but he took a
different approach to them and showed them in a very sensual
way, the use of water colours enhanced the effect he wanted and
the paintings were a treat to the eye. "I think of
myself as a fantasy artist, I try to bring sub-conscious images
to real life and I did just that. I portrayed my model in a very
sensual way, and gave her eyes a lingering depth. I believe my
paintings are not obscene at all, but are courageous and
delusional," shared Babar.
Ghalib
Bakkar's paintings were also very romantic, his main focus was
on sunsets and sea shores but the way he executed the job was
close to a miracle. His paintings were magical in their own
right, they spoke volumes about romance and loneliness, and the
on-lookers could actually feel the magic being cast on them.
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recipe
Grilled
Lamb Chops
Eid-ul-Azha is
not too far; why not try some delicious meaty recipes beforehand
to serve them on the occasion? This week You! has collaborated
with the food maestro Lubna Shariff to tell you the scrumptious
recipe of lamb chops. Enjoy!
Ingredients:
Lamb chops
5 - 6
Tomato sauce
2 tablespoons
Worcestershire
sauce
1 tablespoon
White vinegar
1 tablespoon
Brown sugar
1 tablespoon
Mustard paste
2 teaspoons
Chilli powder
1 tablespoon
Tabasco sauce
1/4 teaspoon
Salt
1/2 teaspoon
METHOD:
- Mix all the
spices and sauces together.
- Now rub the
mixture on the chops and allow it to marinate for about 2 to 3
hours.
- After that
place the chops on a hot BBQ grill or oven and cook for 25 to 30
minutes.
- Keep on
rotating and turning the chops regularly.
- If desired,
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off
the beaten track
Much
ado about nothing
By
Yasir Pirzada
Honey! You are
looking really gorgeous today. This red lipstick suits you so
much."
"Oh! Come
on (blushing) don't flatter me. You are matchless yourself."
"Well,
sweetheart! It's your love for me otherwise I am pretty ordinary
stuff."
"No
darling, don't say that. You have such a manly personality. Look
at your grown beard, these thick moustaches...you can be any
girl's dream."
"And I am
so happy that you are the girl who is living this dream. I love
you darling."
"I love you
too. You know what... my friends really envy us. In fact, Faiza
was saying the other day that she won't marry unless she finds a
man like you."
"Ha ha ha!
She won't find anyone like me as you know I am quite unique."
"Indeed you
are. How lucky I am! Promise me that you will be mine
forever!"
"I promise
my love. We will remain together not only in this world but in the
hereafter as well." "I wonder whether every couple
enjoys marriage the way we do. And whether they love each other
the way we do?"
"I don't
think so because we are ideal love birds. Look at my friend Samir
and his wife Sara. Samir had tall claims at the time of marriage.
But now only after a few months of marriage both of them can't
even stand each other. Poor them!
"Well... in
my opinion, it was your friend Samir's fault because he started
snubbing Sara after marriage."
"After all
he is the husband, he was right in doing so, Sara should have
compromised!"
"I don't
understand why all husbands want their wives to compromise all the
time?"
"I think
it's quite natural and explicable. A man is the breadwinner and
when he comes home after a tiring job, he expects some kind of
respite. On the other hand, the woman always seems to welcome him
with a pile of problems at the doorstep."
"And what
about (a little crudely) all the house chores performed by the
woman? Running a house is much difficult than earning money!"
"It's the
money, which I earn, that runs this house ... (sarcastically)
otherwise even a maid can also do dishwashing and housecleaning
"Ok... let's hire a maid then."
"Aha... you
want to get rid of whatever little work you do in the house so
that you can watch those absurd morning shows on TV
uninterrupted."
"By the
way, you haven't paid the cable fee on time as usual so there is
no way one can watch anything on TV... be it morning shows or your
Bay Watch kind of movies!"
"It's my
hard earned money; I need to spend it prudently."
"Every Tom,
Dick and Harry earns lot of money nowadays; I don't know why it is
such a gigantic task for you? Look at my brother, he spends
thousands daily."
"Ha ha
ha...your brother...? Don't you remember last time when we went
for dinner, he had Manchurian with Nan!"
"And what
about your brother who wears joggers under a three piece suit??
And your elder sister who is such an ill mannered lady that
whenever she visits us she always comes empty handed along with
her five spoiled kids."
"Shut up!
This is her brother's house, she can come anytime anyway."
"Aha... no
objection policy for your family and what about my family and
friends?"
"Your
friends come every other day, I never object to that."
"Yeah...and
I know why... because you want to have some chitchat with my
female friends... I am not a fool, I know you have gifted a new
Nokia cell phone to Faiza last month."
"Are you in
your senses? (Angrily) I will throw you out if you ever talk to me
like this."
"Ok...
fine... (screaming) throw me out... this is the least you can do
to me. You think I can't survive without you!"
"Whoosh...
what will you do at the age of forty? Second marriage? Nobody even
wants to take a second look at your ugly face, and you are
thinking of second marriage. Huh..."
"And what
about you?? You think you are irresistible with your bald head and
ballooned tummy?? Even men don't think you're worthy of a second
glance, talk about women!"
"Thanks for
my pen picture but I am not short of girls; you better be
concerned about yourself because with a whopping 80 kgs on your
body, you always look ..."
"Oh shut
up! It's enough now... I am going to my parent's house... no sane
woman can live with you."
"Then what
are you waiting for... pack your bags and leave my house... and
please never come back."
"You are
forgetting something... this is my house as everything here came
with my dowry... so it's you, who will leave, not me!"
"Well... (scratching his head)... I think you have taken it
too seriously... I didn't mean it that way."
"Really??
Then why did you say that I am ugly looking?"
"Oh
darling... how can you believe this? Just look at yourself... you
can make anybody crazy with your stunning looks ... this red
lipstick suits you wild. I love you."
"Oh you are
such a naughty husband... and dashing... I love you too!"
"By the way
honey... who told you that I bought Nokia for your friend Faiza?"
"Why??
(with a surprise on her face) Did you really buy her that
gift?"
"No no... I
was wondering who could have told you that?"
"Means that
there is something going on between you and Faiza?"
"Oh for
heaven's sake... try to understand... I haven't committed anything
like that."
"Well... it
seems as if you have some unfulfilled desires in your heart!"
"Don't say
a word now otherwise..."
"Otherwise...??
What will you do otherwise?"
"Don't
forget I am your husband and I can divorce you."
"And you
also don't forget that 5 lac rupees mehar for me is written in our
nikahnama so now if you utter one more word about divorce...
"
"Oh no
honey... you always take me wrong... what I was saying... ah...yes
this red lipstick!!!"
(And they lived
happily ever after).
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health
It's
all in the head
A stroke is a medical emergency that can cause permanent
neurological damage, complications, and death. Due to the fatal
affects of this disease it is vital to spread awareness
regarding it. You! takes a look...
By Saad Bin
Jamil
To understand stroke, we first need to understand a bit about
our body, more importantly, brain and its requirements. The
human body is a complex machine, with almost perfect
performance, and the key to it lies in the brain. It is the
control center of the body. There are a million processes going
in it, every second. Every single function depends on it. And
just like the main controller of any machine, it needs a
constant, unimpaired, adequate amount of input or energy. Any
hindrance to this energy, leads to either an impairment of
function or a complete stop. In case of the human body, this
energy is given to the brain by blood and anything that causes a
break or leakage of this blood to the brain, leads to the deadly
condition called 'brain attack' or more appropriately, 'stroke'.
A stroke is a medical emergency. It happens when blood flows to
the brain stops. Since it is one of the most vital organs of the
body, and needs a constant supply of oxygen the brain cells
begin to die within minutes due to lack of blood supply (which
carries oxygen to the brain). The results are usually
devastating and permanent brain damage may be caused. Although
stroke is a disease of the brain, it can affect the entire body.
Some of the disabilities that can result from a stroke include
paralysis, speech problems, emotional difficulties, daily living
problems, and pain. More than anything else it is important to
identify the stroke, determine what causes it, and how one can
prevent and treat it.
Diagnosis:
An easy way to identify a person going through a stroke is
'FAST'. Each of the
first three letters indicates a symptom of stroke. 'F' is for
face, you can ask the person to smile, and it will be crooked.
'A' is for arms, ask the person to lift both of his or her arms
in the air, if he or she has difficulty with one arm this too
might be a sign that this person is having a stroke. 'S' is for
Speech, ask the person to speak. If his or her words are slurred
or they are unable to speak, they might be having a stroke. 'T'
is simply for time. If any of the above symptoms are present, it
is very important, that you quickly get the person to the
hospital. Any minute's delay can result
in paralysis or even death. It usually occurs in older
people, above 55 and is rarely found in young people.
Causes of a stroke:
- High blood pressure. It is present in more than seventy per
cent of stroke cases
- High cholesterol plays a major role
- Smoking
- Obesity
- Diabetes
- An abnormal heart rhythm
- Narrowing of the carotid arteries
- Heavy alcohol and cocaine usage is also associated with it
Treatment and prevention:
- The primary goal in treating stroke is to restore blood flow
to the brain. Use blood thinners such as an aspirin within hours
of the stroke.
- Surgical procedures that can open up or widen arteries may be
performed if stroke is caused by blockade.
- Stroke is a preventable disease and a reduction of blood
pressure will reduce the risk of stroke by forty per cent or
more.
- Control of cholesterol.
- Control on smoking.
- iabetics need to take extra caution of their diet.
Incidence of stroke in Pakistan is more than two hundred per one
lakh. This means that there are three and a half million new
stroke patients every year. Despite being a major public health
problem, stroke has been ignored by the health care authorities.
More reliable data is needed to establish the precise burden of
stroke in Pakistan. However, it is a known fact that stroke is
the most common reason for getting admitted to a neurology ward.
It is also known that high blood pressure, the major risk factor
for stroke, is very common in Pakistan. A national health survey
revealed that more than thirty per cent population above the age
of 45 is suffering from high blood pressure, most of whom are
undiagnosed and uncontrolled. Precaution needs to be taken and
the government should not only launch campaigns to increase the
knowledge of people
regarding stroke, but also take a strong initiative focusing on
the preventive measures.
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